Loneliness. 

It’s the unspoken struggle that’s come to define our postmodern existence.

It’s the silent cause of addiction, escapism, depression, suicide, and contributes to just about every physical and mental health problem humans suffer from.1

As members of the modern world, our task is to solve the problem of loneliness.

We must solve it for ourselves, for our kids, for our families, for our friends —
and there’s never been a more desperate time.

Technology has made incredible advances in our quality of life, yet it’s also made it possible for us to be more independent, and more separate.

We don’t ask our friends for a ride to the airport, because we can Uber.

We don’t bump into friends at the market, because we can get our meals delivered.

We don’t stay in relationships when they get hard, we just open an app and find someone else — we think the problem was compatibility, but we forget that it’s also our capacity to love and connect with people, even when they don’t do what we want.

We don’t open up to our friends about fears, insecurities or our shortcomings — we chat to an online therapist.

We don’t trust friends or family with our big scary dreams — we hire a life coach.

We don’t borrow things from our neighbors — we get same-day delivery from Amazon.

Modern culture has successfully externalized and commercialized almost every aspect of life, but at what cost?

What is the true cost of not needing other people?

There are many, but one to which we ought to give more credence — we’ve lost our people skills.

We run from difficult conversations, we don’t ask for what we want, and our relationship to boundaries is reactive and immature.

Our intimacy muscle is weak.

Fortunately, hope is not lost ♥️

There’s a gym called “courage” and when you get a membership, you join a group of people who have decided that life is too hard when you’re unable to love and be loved.

That’s why we do IntimacyFest.

It’s a chance for us to get together and say “yes, people skills are important”. But we don’t just teach people skills on a chalkboard — we’re a hands-on institution.

In fact, IntimacyFest operates much like a pop-up community, and since it’s a small event (40-50 people), no one gets left behind.

Are you one of us?

All you need is courage, we’ll do the rest.


What To Expect

  • Gain real, applicable tools to deepen the connection in all your relationships, taught by experts in the field of relationships and dating.
  • Safely lean into your edges of self-expression, vulnerability and honesty.
  • Experience being seen, felt, and known like never before — and witness others as they receive that gift from you.
  • Experience three full days of well-facilitated practices, games and workshops.
  • Meet new friends who share your values of openness and authenticity.
  • Get feedback about your blind spots by receiving caring and honest reflections from other people.
  • Get plenty of personal time to recharge and enjoy the beautiful land & surrounding nature.
  • Allow yourself to drop your armor, walls and masks so you can experience being fully yourself.
  • Eat the best damn food you’ve ever had (seriously), thanks to our most excellent chefs Andrew and Trent.
  • Get the chance to express yourself and be seen in your creative greatness at our Talent Show.
  • Allow yourself to feel good in your own skin, and learn to trust your body’s wisdom and your authentic desires.
  • Become a part of a community of dear friends, chosen family, and allies who support who you want to be.


Location

  • The event is being held at The Emerald Village, an intentional community located in Vista, California, approximately 45 minutes north of San Diego.


Sleeping Options

We have a few different options for sleeping.

  • We have plenty of space for camping, and you’re welcome to bring whatever you need. DIY camping is included in the base ticket price.
  • If you’d like to bring an RV, van or some kind of vehicle to sleep in, we can accommodate that — please email Dave for details, depending on the size and utility needs there may be an extra fee.
  • For those that want a nicer option (or don’t want to bring their own tent), we have a few different “glamping” options (explained below).

Group Glamping Option #1

For an extra $200 you can rent a bed in our 4-person group dorm. There will be twin size beds in a beautiful belle tent, comes with electricity and it’s super cozy (this is the actual tent above).

Group Glamping Option #2

For an extra $150 you can rent a bed in our 8-person group dorm. There will be twin size beds in a 25′ diameter Bell tent, and it comes with electricity.

(The picture above is smaller than the actual tent)

Private Glamping

If you’d like some more privacy we will have a few private tents, they will be big enough to stand up in and they will look super cute.

We don’t have pictures of the inside, but they will have a full or queen mattress, great for a couple or one person.

To upgrade to a private tent, it’s $400 for the whole tent (you can choose to share it or not).


Showers & Bathrooms

We’ve got 3 showers and 3 toilets available. A few are outdoor showers and compost toilets, and a few are indoor showers/toilets. Pictures below. (click to enlarge).

 


Internet & Phone Usage

There is wifi available throughout the property and cell service for every major provider.

We don’t have any specific phone usage policy, other than not taking pictures of people without their permission.

In our five years, we haven’t had to make any policies about phone usage, because we’ve found that when people have other things to do that are more fun and engaging than their phone, they limit phone usage naturally.


Food

  • All meals cooked and prepared by our inspired Chef, Andrew Velasco. There will be six meals (and mid-day snacks), all are included in the price.

 


Tickets

Regular Price: $450
Tier 2 (Before June 1): $400
Tier 3 (Before May 1): $350

IntimacyFest is sold out, to get on the wait list for this year, email Dave.

To join the mailing list to be notified when tickets go on sale next year, sign up below.


Schedule

Thursday, June 27th
4-6pm—Guests Arrive
6pm—Dinner
7:30-9:30pm—Welcome & Connection Games (Dave Booda & Reid Mihalko)

Friday, June 28th
8-9am—Wake Up & Personal Time
9-10am—Morning Movement (John Michael Wasmer)
10-11am—Brunch
11am-1pm—Morning Workshop (Reid Mihalko)
1-3pm—Personal Time
3-6pm—Afternoon Workshop (Dave Booda)
6-7pm—Dinner
7-10pm—Roman Bath House Party (Hannah Heart)

Saturday, June 29th
8-9am—Wake Up & Personal Time
9-10am—Morning Movement (John Michael Wasmer)
10-11am—Brunch
11am-1pm—Morning Workshop (Reid Mihalko)
1-3pm—Personal Time
3-6pm—Afternoon Workshop (Dave Booda)
6-7pm—Dinner
7-10pm—Talent Show & Intimate Concert (Matt Haeck)

Sunday, June 30th
8-9am—Wake Up & Personal Time
9-10am—Morning Movement (Dave Booda & John Michael Wasmer)
10-11am—Brunch
11-1pm—Closing Circle


Pictures & Moments


Meet Some Past Participants


I frequently have friends ask me where to get started on their journey thru emotional/sexual/intimacy development & self-growth. This festival is so powerful, thoughtful, and created by people with intentions and heart in the right place. I’ll be there again this year. Can’t recommend it enough!

— Christina M. Host, T&A Talk Sex Podcast


I accessed superpowers I didn’t know I had. I healed wounds I didn’t know I had. I fell in love with so many of you.

I am grateful for it all.

— Kenny B.


I am humbled by the incredible courage, generosity and capacity for love in our IntimacyFest Family.

Thank you for seeing me, thank you for your radiant smiles, your kind words, your passion and incredible role modeling of authenticity and responsible clear communication.

— Melanie B.


I feel full of love and life. Meeting you so totally in the raw is changing the direction of my entire life. An amazing life. Thank you for guiding me closer to myself. I look forward being in your radiance and presence soon.

— Buster R.


I’m still smiling. Thank you all for making my world such a beautiful place.

— Sarah W.


My heart got stretched, twisted and expanded in one amazing weekend.

After leaving the last festival disillusioned and disappointed at the lack of true human connection… this tiny event was exactly what head wanted and my heart needed.

Each day there were only two hours where you weren’t testing yourself and others to be as brutally honest and loving as humanly possible. At times it was uncomfortable, awkward and downright scary for a man like myself, but at the end I emerged a much better person.

35 people attended. I made 34 friends I’ll recognize by name next year from all over the world. The level of love, honesty, consideration, negotiation and consent was unprecedented.

Even Burning Man needs to see this level of radical inclusion.

The people were from all ages and walks of life. Incredible people who had so many amazing things to share. From the organizers, the teachers and each and every individual… each person contributed greatly. Seriously amazing.

— Adam C.


Your Host

Dave Booda is a writer, musician and social entrepreneur. He is the founder of TEDxCardiffbytheSea, co-founder of IntimacyFest, and he writes weekly at boodaism.com about relationships, creativity and happiness. He is the host of Darken the Page, a podcast about the creative process and he also moonlights as his alter-ego Boodananda, a spiritually satirical Kirtan singer who travels the world performing high-vibrational music for enlightened audiences.

Your Guest Teacher

Reid Mihalko is a nationally known sex and relationship role model, and “America’s favorite sex geek”. He has led thousands of workshops, his work has been covered by almost every media outlet. His charisma and easy to understand style of teaching has touched tens of thousands of people. He’s one of the only male sex and relationship experts touring the country today who can speak pragmatically to nearly all areas of sexual self-expression, intimacy, dating and relating.

Reid would also like you to know that he concluded a yearlong restorative justice-based accountability process in 2019 so he could address harms that were brought to his attention during the #MeToo movement. You can find details on that process at TinyURL.com/reidaccountabilty

Reid will be teaching practical tools and lessons for deeper and healthier relationships, as well as offering his wisdom and presence throughout the event.

Your Guest Facilitators

Hannah Heart is a soulful guide, facilitator and coach for people waking up to themselves as sensual and sexual beings.

Hannah will be hosting the Roman Bath house party on Friday evening and will be offering her presence and gifts the rest of the weekend.

 

 John Michael Wasmer is a master facilitator, dancer and shamanic actor. He shares his unique blend of movement, connection and self-expression to thousands of people from around the world.

John Michael will be leading the morning movements and will be playing and dancing with everyone for the entire event.

Your Guest Performer

Matt Haeck is a natural at translating introspection into universal feelings.

Scrappy, with a genuine, lyrical voice, Matt Haeck sings truths hard-earned from struggles he has experienced first hand. In a voice and a style faintly reminiscent of his musical hero, Hank Williams Sr., Matt writes and sings about struggles in a way that is both transcendent and grounded.

 

 


Frequently Asked Questions

1. Should I be attending with a partner?

Not necessarily. We typically have about half and half couples and singles. While attending IntimacyFest with a partner would be brilliant, it is by no means necessary. There will be many people there who are flying solo, in fact attending alone often gives you the chance to meet and connect with more people.

2. What if I don’t know anyone going? Is that okay?

Lots of people come to IntimacyFest not knowing anyone. Because IntimacyFest is a small festival (typically between 40-50 people) everyone gets to know each other very quickly. In many ways, this is a perfect festival to go to if you don’t know anyone, because the exercises and games are designed to create group cohesion and bonding.

3. Will there be nudity?

On Friday night we will have a sensual roman bath in the incredibly lavish indoor pool house. The pool will be heated to 100 degrees, and nudity is welcome.

4. Is intimacy about sex?

We use the word “intimacy” to describe a simple feeling of closeness, which can include sexual energy, but can also be very easily limited by it.

In the past we’ve experimented with different levels of emphasis on sexuality, including having a dedicated tent for it, and also a facilitated play party. We no longer host a play party, or have any designated areas for sex — however you are welcome to enjoy whatever you would like in the privacy of your tent or room.

None of the exercises or events will involve any sex acts or intentional sexual energy. Please feel free to email Dave if you have any further questions or would like more clarification.

5. Can I get a ride if I fly into San Diego?

While there’s no guarantee, chances are very good and we’re happy to help make that happen. In the last four years we’ve gotten everyone a ride that needed one.

6. Does this festival promote polyamory or open relationships?

No, this is a festival for people in all relationship styles.

7. What time does it start on Thursday? When does it end Sunday?

Guests arrive between 4-6pm, and our first event is a group meal at 6:30pm. On Sunday we do a closing circle right after brunch, and typically we’re done around 1pm.

8. Can I come for 1 day?

No, all of our guests arrive Thursday night and stay until Sunday, there are no one or two day passes. We start together, and we finish together.

9. Is IntimacyFest LGBTQ friendly?

Absolutely, we have people of all kinds of sexual orientations and gender expressions.

10. Are kids allowed?

No, we love kids but this is an adult-only event.

11. What is your return policy?

Life happens, we understand. You may get a full refund up to one week before the event.

Got another question?

Send Dave an email: davebooda@gmail.com

 

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  1. Loneliness Matters: A Theoretical and Empirical Review of Consequences and Mechanisms, https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3874845/